From the grave to the funeral
End of life channel
Commentary by a lifelong expert
What is the age to start the end of life?
~ End of life is the last gift for the family ~
I think that many people think of the elderly when they hear the word "end of life."
It seems that there are many people in their 70s who actually start their life.
After all, it is said that as we get older, we become more aware of death and begin to end our lives because we are more likely to break our bodies due to illness and the death of friends of the same age.
Then, at what age should we start the end of life?
In fact, it is better to start the end of life gradually from a young age.
This is because it takes energy and physical strength to end the life, so it is better to prepare in a planned manner from a young age to reduce the burden on old age.
After all, it takes time to prepare well to reach the ideal end.
People in their 40s or younger may think that they have nothing to do with the end of life, but by learning about the end of life for their parents, they can prepare for long-term care problems, inheritance problems, inheritance problems, etc. I can do it.
It's too late after my parents died.
End of life is a problem that should be considered not only by the elderly but also by the working generation.
And the sooner you prepare for the end of life, the better.
I don't know when humans will be picked up.
The end of life is an activity that should be started from now on.
The sooner you end your life, the better!
What is the end of life? ??
~ Activities to reduce unnecessary expenses ~
The word "end of life" is a recently born word.
Nowadays, it is often featured on TV, etc., and its recognition has increased.
There are many related books, and it has become a bit of a boom.
Even so, what kind of activity does "end of life" mean?
If you search for "end of life" on the net, you will find various related services and products.
There are many companies and shops that are trying to make money by "ending life".
As a result, there are cases in which you have purchased goods or services that you did not originally need, and you have run out of money because you have "finished your life."
However, the original meaning of life is "how can we leave only useful things to the bereaved family without spending money before they die?"
If you are going to end your life, please keep that in mind.
The most important thing is not to spend money!
What is the content of the end of life? ??
one's home? institution? Who do you want to care for?
What kind of funeral do you want?
Tomb? Ossuary? Natural burial? Who manages it?
Do you have the energy and physical strength to end your life?
Is your final home at home? institution?
What about medical insurance? Review life insurance?
do? do not? How to do it?
Making a will
Ask an expert? Do you do it yourself?
What are the costs required for life and retirement funds? How much do you leave for whom?
Disposal and arrangement of disused items
What to leave? Do you want to leave it?
What is the end of life?
[ How can I not spend money ]
[ Can only useful things be left to the bereaved family ]
It is an activity to think.
The minimum things to do at the end of life
Checklist 30 items
About the funeral
① What kind of funeral do you want? (Buddhist style? Family cremation? Direct cremation?)
② Do you give the contact information of the person you want to call to your family?
③ What is the scale and budget of the funeral? Are you ready for that?
④ What about the funeral company? What about temples and monks? What is your hope for Kaname?
⑤ Who will arrange and pay for the funeral? Do you yourself before you live? Bereaved family?
⑥ What is the deceased? What do you want us to cremate and bury together?
About organizing relics
⑦ How do you dispose of unneeded items?
⑧ What do you do with your hobbies, pets, etc. after death?
⑨ Who will you give your relics to? Does the person know it?
⑩ What about the contents of smartphones, etc.? show? Don't you show me
About heritage and property
⑪ Who will leave how much?
⑫ What is your will? Do you tell your family where to find your passbook, cash, etc.?
⑬ Is there a negative legacy such as a loan? Do you know your family?
About the grave
⑭ How to make a memorial service? (Tomb of a temple? Reien? Ossuary? Scattering?)
⑮ Who do you want the grave to take over?
⑯ Did you discuss with your family how much you would like to visit the grave or the memorial service?
⑰ Did you discuss maintenance costs, purchase costs, etc. with your family?
⑱ Who do you want to enter the grave with? (Ancestral? Family? Spouse?)
⑲ Which temple / vendor do you purchase / request from?
About long-term care and medical care
⑳ Who do you want to take care of where?
㉑ Do you know the "costs" and "systems" required for long-term care and medical care?
㉒ Do you have medical insurance? Do you know your family?
㉓ Are you ready for a sudden fall?
㉔ Are there any medical staff around you who can provide medical consultation?
㉕ Do you want life expectancy, organ donation, or life-prolonging treatment?
㉖ "Who" and "where" do you want the death to be taken care of?
About money and housing
㉗ Do you have the necessary funds for your retirement life?
㉘ Do you choose your home for "the final home"? Do you choose a facility?
㉙ Who will leave the property after your death?
㉚ Do you understand tax incentives and subsidy systems?
When ending the life, start with these 30 items.
It's a good idea to start by choosing only one "what you can do" or "what you want to do".
Suddenly trying to do everything makes me depressed.
And the important thing is to "do only the minimum necessary".
If you unknowingly expand the scale of your life, such as "because everyone is doing it", "because it is popular", and "because it was done on TV", it will cost you a lot of money.
The way of life is different for each person.
You just have to do the "minimum necessary" for the end of life that suits you.
At the end of life, we only do the minimum necessary! !!
[Expert of life] commentary
Difference of "Aiding Note"
"Ending notes" and "wills" will always come out at the end of life.
Both are manifestations of intention to the remaining family, but the two are completely different things.
First of all, a will is a "legal" document that describes what happened after one's death, focusing on inheritance.
The content is also limited, such as real estate and property.
The ending note has no legal effect on the will, but unlike the will, you can write the content freely.
What kind of funeral do you want to have, what do you want the remains to do, etc.
It is recommended that the ending note be written as a message letter to the bereaved family who can convey the wishes and thoughts of the person who cannot be written in the will.
So when should you write a will and an ending note?
The most dangerous thing is to die without writing anything. Recently, it is said that PPK (Pinpin Korori), which dies while being healthy, is good, but if PPK is done without writing anything, the bereaved family will not accumulate.
After all, it is recommended to write from the fifties when the risk of death such as illness gradually increases.
Please download and use the free ending note of "End of Life Channel".
Kumazawa Tatsuki / Lifelong Consultant
A lifelong consultant who is a priest of the Nichiren sect and has national medical and legal qualifications.
A lifelong seminar is held free of charge at the temple.
Not just a grave
Reiwa's burial method
Where do you want to sleep after death?
Until now, it was thought that "people will enter a grave somewhere when they die".
However, in recent years, the grave has become a source of trouble for many people.
A long time ago, many people became temple ancestors, had graves, and valued the connection with the temple.
However, in Japan, where nuclear families have become more common, it has become commonplace to live in separate families, making it difficult to inherit graves.
I think there are many people who do not want the children to take over the grave because of the financial burden.
How do you find a place to sleep in such an era?
Currently, it is said that there are 77256 temples in Japan.
And since many of them manage graves, it is basically possible to buy temple graves wherever you go.
The management fee for graves varies depending on the temple, and depending on the temple, donations and participation in Buddhist events may occur, so when purchasing a grave for a temple, it is a good idea to look at various temples. increase.
A public graveyard is a reien managed and operated by local governments such as prefectures and municipalities.
There are no religious rules such as denominations and denominations, and in many cases the permanent usage fee and management fee are set low.
However, it is popular because of its low cost, and it cannot be purchased unless you win a lottery that is recruited irregularly, and the shape and size of the grave are often specified.
A private graveyard is a cemetery managed and operated by a private company outsourced to various corporations.
It has a relatively high degree of freedom compared to public graveyards, but it is often expensive.
If you can afford it and find it difficult to relate to the temple, we recommend a private graveyard.
The ossuary is a facility like an urn condominium, where you pay a permanent memorial fee and place the ashes in a designated place.
When you hear the term "permanent memorial service fee", you may mistakenly think that the ashes can be placed in the ossuary forever, but in most cases, the ashes are placed in the ossuary and after a certain period of time, the ashes are a common burial place. Will be buried in.
The memorial service that the temple offers for the deceased is eternal, but be aware that the enshrining in the ossuary is not eternal.
It is a method of scatter the bones in the deceased's memorable places such as the sea and mountains.
It is not realistic to do it individually because it is not always possible to powder the ashes or to scatter the bones at the time of bone-cutting.
If you bury bones in the soil without permission, it will be a violation of the law under the "Law on Graveyards and Burials, etc.", so if you are thinking of natural burial, ask an expert.
Natural burial is the cheapest method of burial because it often does not require gravestones or management fees.
I have introduced various burial methods, but what is important is whether not only you but your family are satisfied with the burial method.
Even if you buy an expensive grave, the graveyard will be ruined in a few years if there is no one to visit, and even if you scatter the ocean for financial reasons, the remaining family will remember the deceased. I don't know where to go when I want to.
Choose a burial method that puts not only your own thoughts but also the remaining people first.
[Natural burial expert] commentary
Reasons to choose marine scatter
Marine scatter is one of the natural burials that has existed for a long time.
Recently, it has been featured by the media such as TV, and its recognition has increased and the number of users is increasing.
There are hundreds of bone-cutting companies on the Internet.
The number of bone-cutting companies has exploded in the last few years, as it is possible to start a bone-cutting company with a ship license and a ship.
Therefore, since the service content varies, it is recommended to compare the service content carefully before using it.
In recent years, there are various reasons why marine scatter has been attracting attention, such as the deceased's intention to return to nature, the grave and the ossuary are expensive and cannot be held, and the grave cannot be maintained because there is no heir. Marine scatter is chosen for a variety of reasons.
There are two types of marine scatter.
It is a case of cutting bones at sea with the bereaved family and a substitute bone cutting by having a contractor etc. perform the bone cutting on behalf of the bereaved family. In the former case, it costs about 200,000 to 500,000 yen, but the substitute bone-cutting costs about 30,000 to 70,000 yen.
The cost of surrogate bone-cutting is low, and there is no need to worry about seasickness, so the number of users is increasing in recent years.
Before including bone-cutting as a funeral option, you can remember the deceased by visiting the grave in the case of a grave, but not in the case of marine bone-cutting.
I often hear stories of bereaved families who have a hard time saying, "I can't remember the deceased like a grave after the bones are scattered."
If you are worried about such things, I think it would be better to split a part of the ashes and make a memorial service at hand without scatter all the ashes.
You can purchase containers for memorial service at hand at Buddhist altar stores or on the Internet.
The temple is a minute's walk from the sea and has a long history of hundreds of years of marine burial at sea.
Originally, the marine scatter of this temple was done for the Danish believers.
"I asked a contractor to scatter the ashes as the deceased wished, but I felt guilty after the scatter."
In recent years, we have received many such inquiries, and we wanted to help such people, so we opened the marine scatter of this temple to the general public.
I think that the ashes that are torn in the ocean need the same generous memorial service as the ashes buried in the grave, so a Buddhist memorial service is held at sea at the time of the ashes, and the deceased Buddhahood and the bereaved family are memorialized. We are happy to help you with your feelings.
Shonan Ocean Memorial
A marine bone-cutting service operated by a temple located in Oiso Town, Kanagawa Prefecture.
A priest with a first-class ship license steers himself and performs a substitute bone-cutting in the Shonan sea with a donation of 50,000 yen per spirit.
"Shonan marine memorial service"
I scatter the ashes into the ocean as the deceased wished, but I felt lonely and guilty after the scatter.
I often hear such troubles.
What can be done as the closest temple to the sea in Shonan?
With that in mind, the "Myorinji Shonan Marine Memorial Service" began.
For the ashes that are scatterd in the ocean, the same generous memorial service as the ashes buried in the grave.
The chief priest of a temple with a long history of performing marine bone-cutting funerals will perform a Buddhist memorial service at sea to help the deceased Buddhahood and the bereaved family's memorial service.
We would like many people to use the marine bone scatter of this temple, and we also accept marine bone scatter by bone transfer (mailing of ashes).
It is also available for those who cannot come to our temple.
[Funeral expert] commentary
Funeral pricing mechanism
In recent years, funerals have become the mainstream at funeral halls such as the ceremony halls of funeral companies.
When a funeral is held at the hall, the hall usage fee is always included in the funeral fee.
Some funeral companies claim that the hall usage fee is free, but the funeral company always has to pay for the maintenance of the building.
If the hall usage fee is stated to be free, the altar fee is expensive or the amount of the hall usage fee is included in the plan.
Basically, it doesn't get cheaper because the hall usage fee is free.
Also, in many cases, it is clearly stated that a separate hall usage fee will be charged in order to make the official price look cheap.
Furthermore, apart from that, things necessary for a funeral without delay are not included in the plan, and in the end additional charges will be incurred and the actual cost burden will be added, and as a result, the first eye It is very often that it is several times the amount of money entered.
The larger the funeral company, the more labor costs will be incurred, which will be added.
A privately run funeral company can hold a cheap funeral because it does not cost much labor, unlike major companies.
The high cost of the funeral is the entertainment fee for the attendees.
Gifts and dishes for attendees will be charged separately for the amount requested.
By adjusting the entertainment fee, which is a separate burden, the total cost of the funeral fee can be reduced.
You can save money if you can arrange these yourself rather than at a funeral company, but many funeral companies cannot arrange them yourself.
You may want to have these things for your attendees so as not to be rude.
However, when considering why the funeral is held in the first place, the original purpose of the remaining family is to see off the deceased.
Also, those who attend or are buried will also come to see off the deceased, so there is no need to entertain excessively.
When you attend a funeral, you don't go to a meal, you go to a funeral to see off the deceased, right?
There has been a word of half-return in Japan for a long time, but recently, extra-return has become commonplace.
If you return more than the amount of the incense, the more people you call, the more the funeral burden will increase.
If the funeral is held only in secret, it is possible to reduce the cost separately after gaining understanding.
Even for funerals with a large number of people, I don't come to eat rice, so it's not rude to not serve wake-up meals.
However, many funeral companies, for their own benefit, say that lack of food is rude to attendees and encourage excessive entertainment, so think carefully about whether you really need it.
"Temple funerals" are funerals held at temples, where funerals can be held at low cost and at the same time, while reducing the cost of funerals in the halls of funeral companies and excessive entertainment.
The temple has ceremonial halls and altars necessary for funerals, and although everything necessary for religious ceremonies is commonplace, there is no need to pay for them.
After that, you only have to arrange the necessary items for the funeral, so the cost of the funeral fee will be reduced.
The temple is well thought out about what the funeral is for, so you won't be forced to entertain too much at the funeral company. Many temple funerals are held for the purpose of memorial service, not profit, so it is possible to hold funerals at low cost.
In fact, even in the case of a family funeral that costs a lot of money for the family, a temple funeral can reduce the funeral cost and send off the deceased without rudeness.
Because the altar of the temple is a real altar, not just the altar in the shape of the ceremony hall of the funeral company.
This is because the funeral can be held while being watched by the real principal idol.
Hidekatsu Takashima / Souvenir Takatsuki
A funeral company located in Minamiashigara City, Kanagawa Prefecture. Mainly temple funerals, home funerals, and funerals in rental halls are held at low rates. Supporting the bereaved family while valuing "seeing off with feelings".
Temple funeral "temple funeral"
A funeral that is low cost but more prestigious than anywhere else
Family funeral plan
Member price 198,000 yen (tax included)
General price 218,000 yen (tax included)
[Including all donations, Dharma names, and funeral expenses]
❇︎ Does not include additional flowers, food and drinks, primer, etc., but you can bring your own.
This is a funeral style that is common in some areas, where a farewell party is held on the eve of the funeral instead of going to night, and a funeral is held on the ashes after the cremation.
It is a low-cost but prestigious funeral that cuts down on all costs and provides the minimum necessary memorial service at the temple.
Even though it is a family funeral, the cost does not change no matter how many people participate.
A high-class funeral that relatives and attendees can be proud of
General funeral plan
Member price 378,000 yen (tax included)
General price 398,000 yen (tax included)
[Including all donations, Dharma names, and funeral expenses]
❇︎ Does not include additional flowers, food and drinks, primer, etc., but you can bring your own.
A prestigious funeral that can be held at a temple with all the traditional rituals such as the pillow after the death, the wake, the ceremonies of the coffin, the funeral, the farewell ceremony, and the first seven days memorial service.
We pray for the deceased's soul at a low-cost but high-quality funeral that relatives and attendees can be proud of.
[Expert of permanent memorial service] commentary
Advantages and disadvantages of permanent memorial service
Since ancient times, the temple has taken care of the tombs and memorial services for eternity on behalf of the Danish believers who have lost their heirs.
Nowadays, the nuclear family and the declining birthrate are advancing, and the major premise that "graves are inherited from generation to generation" is about to collapse.
Also, an increasing number of people are thinking, "I don't want to put a burden on my child about the grave."
Against this background, the "Eternal Memorial Tomb" with modern elements has been completed.
Originally, the operation managers of temples and reiens take over the graves that children take over and manage the memorial services and graves on their behalf.
When you sign a contract for a permanent memorial tomb, you will have to pay for the permanent memorial service.
The cost varies from 100,000 yen to over 1 million yen depending on the temple or reien, but it is not bad because it is expensive and good because it is cheap.
There are roughly two types of bones for permanent memorial service.
In the "combination style", the ashes are buried together in a common burial place.
In the "bone-feeding form", the bones are delivered to individual locations together with the urn.
The service content varies depending on the temple and reien, so you need to use your time and feet to find out.
There are advantages and disadvantages to the permanent memorial tomb, which is a set of burial of ashes and permanent memorial service.
The biggest advantage is that it costs less than having a grave individually.
Furthermore, although individual graves are usually only for people in the house, permanent memorial graves are communal graves, so even friends can enter them.
Of course, since it is a permanent memorial service, no successor is required.
Confirmation is required, but many permanent memorial tombs are of any denomination.
The disadvantage is that in the case of the enshrined type, once buried, the ashes cannot be taken out.
Many of the ossuary halls have their ashes removed from the urn after a certain period of time and are buried together with other ashes.
If you don't understand it well, you may get into trouble saying, "Unknowingly, the ashes were buried together with other ashes!"
Listen carefully to the explanation of how many years it will be buried.
When purchasing a permanent memorial tomb, first take the time to go to various places and take a "visiting position".
Although I can visit now, it is important to have a location that is easy to visit, such as barrier-free, in case it becomes difficult for me to visit because I am elderly.
It is also important to be able to communicate properly with the manager (priest).
Consider whether the price is worth it from various conditions.
As mentioned above, it is a shortcut to find a permanent memorial tomb that is good to check with your own feet and find a place that you are satisfied with.
Recently, the number of people visiting temples with red stamps is increasing.
You may ask at that time.
Mitsuteru Takeuchi / Chief priest of Hosenji Temple
Nichiren sect temple located in Isehara city, Kanagawa prefecture. Experts on graves and permanent memorial services. There is also a permanent memorial tomb in the precincts, watching over many Buddhas.
Eternal memorial tomb surrounded by greenery
1 minute walk from the sea
The grave where you can hear the sound of the waves
The Tensei Mausoleum is a joint permanent memorial tomb that can be used across denominations and denominations.
There is no need to change the sect or become a temple house, and there is no need to worry about imposing an economic burden on the next generation.
We will also provide a permanent memorial service to those who do not have a successor.
The permanent memorial service payment at the Tensei Mausoleum is 100,000 yen.
It includes a permanent memorial service fee, management fee, burial memorial service, spring / autumn equinoctial week, Obon festival, and segaki memorial service.
For those who cannot come to the Tensei Mausoleum for various reasons, we also accept burial by bone transfer (mailing of ashes).
It can be used from anywhere in Japan.
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